The song Used to Be Pretty just came on autoplay, and it made me smile. The lyrics talk about a woman looking back on herself at different ages, always realizing in hindsight that she was pretty—at 23, she thought her 19-year-old self was pretty, and at 19, she thought her 16-year-old self was. It resonated with me because I’ve always had a habit of disliking most photos of myself in the moment, only to look back years later and see them differently — seeing that version of me as pretty in its own way.
It reminded me of something a speech and drama teacher told me seven years ago. She said that every time she looks at her younger self, she wonders why she ever believed she wasn’t pretty in the moment. Her words have stuck with me because, honestly, I think that’s a universal experience for women—especially post-teenage years. We’re so quick to find things about ourselves that feel like they aren’t enough, yet with time and distance, we realize that version of us was more than enough. We’ve changed and grown—hopefully for the better—but somehow, the present version still doesn’t feel like it measures up.
And really, feeling enough—pretty enough, kind enough, intelligent enough, strong enough, patient enough, passionate enough—is one of the hardest things to hold onto. Yet, it’s probably the most important thing we could build: the belief that our worth isn’t defined by others, the world, or our circumstances. That we define it.
And the real magic begins when self-belief is strong enough to know we are enough — but the drive to grow remains alive enough too.
Okay enough said :)
Kanksha <3