Being smooth

I am trying to understand the art of being smooth. What is being smooth? I think it's when someone makes you feel good about something intentionally, but the way they do that seems effortless. Words just flow out, and they are often a mix of sweet and playful. 

What effort or thought goes into this? And how do people do it with seemingly zero effort or thought? 

I think the first skill is exaggeration. Not to an unreasonable amount where it feels completely untrue, but just enough. A little more than what is due. For instance, when someone sends you new music and perhaps 5 songs that they like, a response could be "Thank you, I'm going to be listening to this all afternoon!". You're not going to be listening all afternoon really, because it's 25 minutes tops, but that sentence acknowledges the effort put behind sending multiple songs really well. Just a little exaggeration, enough to keep it genuine. 😊

The second skill is having a playful tone. Sometimes you don't want to sound serious. But you want to communicate something to someone. Like when you want to drop the phone with a friend let's say. And one way to do that is, "Ab tu mere dil mein rahegi, phone pe nahi" (you will now be in my heart, and not on the phone). And that is just so much nicer to hear than "I'm sorry but I've got to go." It's exaggerated but not untrue, and coupled with that smile and tone, communicates what you want but in a really nice way. ☀️

I'm not sure how to talk this way. I don't know how to exaggerate but still remain genuine. But I want to learn. 

Love,

Kanksha