I believe that people care
That people show up
That relationships are what makes us human
Doesn't it suck when you're the reason
That someone realizes something
About themselves
But someone else benefits from the changed behaviour
How do you make your peace
With your effort
When the relationship takes a different course
How do you not feel wronged
How do you stop wishing for something different
How do you not feel upset
Or disappointed with yourself and the other person
How do relationships just die
How do they lose their importance
Without a single trigger
Just like that
How do you fall out of love
Maybe just the way you fall in love
Small significant yet insignificant things
Add up without you knowing
Until you suddenly know.
Others benefitting from your conscious or unconscious actions is progress, kudos to you for that. In the deepest sense, love doesn't distinguish between polarities, and expects nothing in return, it's a river that keeps flowing, a tree that keeps bearing fruit. It is that perpetual generator which powers the entire cosmos, supplying electricity to every atom. Even feeling upset is a nurturing experience, why avoid it? 放行 is valuable! The dichotomy exists at psychological levels of the mind, a fruit fly or garbage van is as beautiful and fascinating as your loved ones, all dancing energy, creation's diverse forms loved into being, different wavelengths of the same white light. This isn't about convincing yourself, it's seeing the true Nature of reality, that it's impermanent, impersonal, and that clinging leads to suffering, then vicikicchā vanishes........ the understanding is a good place to start. This doesn't make a person indifferent, it makes a person more empathetic, compassionate and leads to deeper, more fulfilling relationships, so more useful in the material world. For most people, it takes significant practise, for some, few drinks, for few, a nanosecond of undivided, wordless attention to the breath to suspend the 5 hindrances. Either way, the drinks end, the people leave, but Nirvāṇa stays, with or without the spirit, beyond birth and death.
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